If there's one thing I learned from my ten year career as Honorary Secretary for the FINA TOWSC (Technical Open Water Swimming Committee) it's that being a good girl isn't good enough. Your inner good girl is thoughtful, always considers others' needs first, works hard at the office and at home, is extremely responsible, and never, ever wants to hurt anyone's feelings. These seem like admirable qualities, but what often happens is that in the process of doing all these "good" things, you too often sacrifice your own needs. You can't say no, you place others' needs higher than our own, and you feel guilty for not doing it all and doing it well. You hide your feelings and let others walk … [Read more...]